Untitled – No Words
May 21, 2007
This past weekend, my wife & I have endured an event so tragic, we are still having difficulty coming to grasps with the reality of it. I don’t ever expect the pain we now feel to disappear.
On Saturday, our midwife came by for a visit to check on Darcy who was having extremely itchy feet. As part of a normal visit, they also listen to the baby’s heartbeat. I’ve found that mothers to be always enjoy that interaction. They find it so comforting.
But Sara couldn’t find it.
We made our way over to St. Paul’s and where we proceeded to search for his heartbeat. It wasn’t there. Neither the fetal heart monitor, nor an ultrasound could find it.
Darcy knew before I did. Maybe I just wanted to ignore what was so clearly in front of me. The horror of knowing your son is dead before you’ve even had an opportunity to meet him is …
…no word can explain that feeling.
The pain you feel is at times overwhelming… the days ahead seem to have no purpose. Logic and reason mean nothing.
The gross horror of the moment, coupled with the horrific decisions you now need to face are simply inconceivable. When only shortly before, we were talking about him and guessing at what his personality was, and who he took after… what colour his hair would be.
No, no, no, no… is all you’re saying or thinking. You don’t want to accept it as truth. You don’t want to believe. You want to wake up it all be a bad dream
I had a nightmare a few weeks ago that my son fell off a boat while we were on a lake. I was already in the water and dove down to get him. He was out of my reach, but I wouldn’t give up.. I couldn’t… I loved him so much, I had to save him. I had no air, but I wouldn’t stop… and I got him. I saved him. He was going to be okay.
I couldn’t save him from this. There was nothing that I could do. Nothing and it’s horrible to know that you couln’t protect him. And I didn’t even get the opportunity to do it.
I am very proud of my wife. She is so beautiful and strong. I cannot imagine the feelings you’d have and the strength you’d need to give birth to your son who you know is not breathing. Who you had felt kicking you less that a day before. Who you’ve already grown such a beautiful connection with through the eight months he’s been with you.
Axel Corey Reid Carriveau was born Sunday morning at 7:00am. He was 3lbs 1oz and 43 centimeters long, with thick brown hair. He was so beautiful. So perfect. We love him so much.
He looked just like his 3D photos. Exactly like them.
Darcy & I got to spend some time with him. At first you think that seeing him would be so horrible, knowing that he’s not alive. But you have to, I couldn’t imagine leaving him there and not even saying hello. I will always cherish that time the three of us spent together. My beautiful son, my beautiful wife.
They gave us some keepsakes from the hospital for us to remember him. His birth card, imprints of his hands and feet, and a few locks of his hair.
He was such a pretty, beautiful baby. So perfect, and so perfect for us.
me and my beautiful wife
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1.
Todd & Michelle Isackson | May 21, 2007 at 8:18 pm
Dear Corey & Darcy.
Words can not express the pain we feel for you two and what you are going through at this time. We had a friend drop by on his way home from camping last night and passed the news on to us. He had been with your family at the same campsite when the news came in yesterday morning. When he told us what he had heard, he hadn’t realized that we knew who this couple was. Todd and I have been talking about this tragedy since we heard last night. We are so sick for you both. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Love,
Todd & Michelle
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Nicole Vaslot | May 21, 2007 at 9:59 pm
Darcy and Corey,
Iam so glad I came across this website . I had heard about your tradegy over the weekend and have been sick for the pain you two must fell. It is unimaginable, especially being a parent myself. I am happy to hear that you did have time to say goodbye to him and that you were able to take home some keepsakes to remember him until you seem him in paradise. In August I lost my baby brother . I never had any idea of how greif felt before that. It will make you see the world differently. You both are strong and you have a wonderful family to help you get through this dreadful time.
Please pass on my condolencies to your parents. Corey, it was a wonderful thing for you to write that for all to see, and it is such a blessing to see how much you love your wife, she will need you now more than she has ever before.
You will be in my deepest of thoughts.
Nicole
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Coco & Colin | May 21, 2007 at 10:42 pm
Corey & Darcy,
The three of you are in our thoughts and prayers every night. I cant even express the pain we have for you guys. IF there is anything we can do, which I know there is nothing..love you BOTH lots!!!
Hugs
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not important | May 22, 2007 at 4:00 am
I dont know where to start , so i will start where anyone would at a time like this which is in the moment. I have children and have seen them grow and and have taken that for granted , but no more. I would give anything for the two of you to have what you want and need.I would save you all this grief if i could but i cant , no one can. I will be there to help you welcome Axel into the family in the new system , and i will be happier for the both of you than you could imagine. You deserve better than you have been given , you deserve the family you desire.
Cory i admire your strength and i know you could do anything but maybe not everything please do not hesitate to call upon family for anything you need. They will be there.
Darcy you are amazing in more ways than you realize and i am sooo proud of you right now. I know that you will be the most amazing mother very soon. In this system or the next.
I Love you both and it kills me to see your pain, Things will never be the same but they will be ok someday..
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Afroza and Jamil | May 22, 2007 at 5:15 am
Dearest Darcy and Corey, Our deepest condolences for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your families at this very sad time.
Love,
Afroza and Jamil
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Shelby & Ryan | May 22, 2007 at 5:17 am
Dear Darcy & Corey,
It’s impossible for us to even comprehend the pain and feeling of loss that you are experiencing right now. The love towards a child whether born or unborn runs so deep and strong. Take your time to cry and to grieve – rely on your strong love for Jehovah and for each other.
Please know that you are in our thoughts and our prayers.
Love,
Shelby & Ryan
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Danielle and Ron Wilson | May 22, 2007 at 2:14 pm
Dear Darc, and Corey,
Thank You Corey for being the amazingly, loving husbnd and father, to write this blog for all to see.We are all praying for you and Darcy and although we cant exactly feel your pain,know we are deeply saddened and heart broken for you both.Hope the coming days give you the strength you need to get through this system and on into the paradise to be with your precious son.We all love you very much.
Love,Danielle and Ron
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Kathleen Morisette | May 22, 2007 at 3:47 pm
Darcy and Corey,
I can’t find the words to express how deeply saddened I was to hear of the loss of your beautiful baby boy.
I cannot imagine the pain you must be feeling.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Love,
Kat and Dave
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Natasha | May 22, 2007 at 4:02 pm
Darcy, my sweet Darcy. I love you so very much. As you already know I am here for both you and Corey. I love you both.
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Veronica | May 22, 2007 at 4:04 pm
Darcy & Corey
You are in my thoughts. You have my most profound sympathy.
Lots of love,
Veronica
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Gabe | May 22, 2007 at 4:05 pm
Dear Darcy and Corey,
I am at a loss with words to express my deepest regrets and sympathies for your pain and heart break. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time, and I hope that you will find both strength and support from us to shoulder your pain.
Sincerely yours,
Gabe
12.
Sarah & Dave Mackie | May 22, 2007 at 4:24 pm
Dear Darcy & Corey,
My heart breaks for you today as I learned about the loss of your baby boy. I know how badly you wanted a child and the struggles you have endured in the process. I can’t come up with any words to say how sorry I am. Dave and I send our love and will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.
Sarah & Dave Mackie
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Zaneta | May 22, 2007 at 4:32 pm
Darcy and Corey,
There are no words to truly capture what I want to express to you both in this time of grief. I am filled with a deep sorrow and ache after learning of your tragic loss. I can only say that if I could lessen your pain I would. I want you to know that Axel was born to amazing, strong and wonderful parents who are loved and admired by all of their family and friends.
Please know that I am thinking of you with my sincere condolences. I extend a warm hug of strength to you both.
Zaneta
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Brad Neumann | May 22, 2007 at 4:34 pm
Darcy & Corey,
I cannot imagine what you are going through. I can only pass on my most heartfelt condolences. My thoughts are with both of you in this very difficult time.
Brad
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Sylvana | May 22, 2007 at 4:38 pm
Dear Darcy and Corey,
I would like to express my heartfelt condolences to you over the loss of your beautiful baby boy. I cannot fathom how incredibly heartbreaking this is for you. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. If there is anything I can do please do not hesitate to ask.
Sylvana
16.
Wayne Hickey | May 22, 2007 at 4:42 pm
Darcy and Corey,
What can one say at atime like this but to assure you that you are in our thoughts and prayers as you go through this very difficult time. May you find the strength to get through this with the love and support of each other, of family and friends.
Wayne
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Sandra | May 22, 2007 at 4:42 pm
Dearest Darcy and Corey
I wish there was some way to make it all better. It doesn’s seem to be enought to let you know that we are thinking about you and that our prayers are with you. Axel was a lucky little boy to have you as parents, if only for a moment. Please know you are not alone. I am so sorry for your loss.
All our love Sandra & Ian
18.
Lester | May 22, 2007 at 4:56 pm
Dear Darcy and Corey,
I just got this tragic news. Please know that you are in the thoughts and prayers of your friends in Chile as well. We share your pain.
Lester
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Rajinder Manhas | May 22, 2007 at 5:18 pm
Dear Darcy & Corey,
I am not sure what to say…I am not sure what to say. Oh!! Darcy I am so sad and can’t even imagine yours and Corey’s pain. May God give you and Corey the strength to accept this.
Please let me know if you need anything…
With lots of hugs and tears,
Rajinder
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Lorna Young | May 22, 2007 at 5:32 pm
Corey and Darcy
There are no words to express the level of sympathy, nor actions to take that will even for one moment lessen your pain.
Please know that we are thinking of you, supporting you in our hearts and hoping that we can help you in some small way.
Please let us know if there is anything we can do – anytime to help.
Love
Lorna
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Robert Burns | May 22, 2007 at 5:50 pm
Dear Darcy,
I was extremely saddened to hear your news. No words can express what you are going through, and I hope this message finds you and Corey doing as well as possible. Please accept my deepest condolences, and know that you have many dear friends and relatives who’s thoughts and prayers are with you.
With deepest sympathy,
Rob.
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Deanna | May 22, 2007 at 6:12 pm
My dearest Darcy and Corey,
There are no words to express the deep sorrow that I felt upon receiving the news of Axel. I can not even comprehend the heartbreak and grief that you are feeling and wish that there was something that I could do to make things better for you. You are wonderful, kind, good hearted people and are loved very much by many people. Find strength in each other, in your family and friends. Know we are here for you and you are loved.
You are in my heart and in my prayers.
Love,
Deanna
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John & Jennifer Gordon | May 22, 2007 at 6:15 pm
Dear Darcy and Corey,
There are no words to express the heartbreak we feel at the loss of your beautiful, much loved baby boy, Axel. There are no words to express how much we feel for the three of you, how completely you are filling our thoughts and our prayers and our hearts. There are no words. Only our deepest sympathy and our most heartfelt love.
Please know that we are here for you if you need anything.
Sincerely,
John and Jennifer
24.
Georgina Leech | May 22, 2007 at 6:44 pm
Dear Darcy and Corey,
Sending a gentle hug your way.
Love
Georgina
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Royston Colbourne | May 22, 2007 at 7:10 pm
Dear Darcy and Corey,
To spend such a short time with your beloved son Axel is so sad I don’t know how to express it. What I am able to do is to send love and prayers to the three of you at this difficult time.
Royston and Laura
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Barry & Betty Chow | May 22, 2007 at 8:01 pm
Dear Darcy and Corey,
We are deeply saddened of the news of your beloved son. Our thoughts and prayers are with you as you go through this difficult time.
Love and hugs,
Barry and Betty
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Mona | May 22, 2007 at 8:05 pm
Dearest Darcy,
No word can express my sorrow that I felt upon receiving this news. I even can not imagine how pain it is when you lost Axel. Darcy, my lovely lady, please know I am thinking of you and supporting in my heart.
Love
Mona
28.
Graham & Yvonne | May 22, 2007 at 8:30 pm
Darcy & Corey
Having lost three people from my life this past year, I can understand a little bit about the devastation you are having to deal with.
The strength and love of family and friends is what is going to get you both through this dark time.
Take the time you both need no matter what.
Our love to you both
Graham & Yvonne
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Josh & Krista | May 22, 2007 at 8:41 pm
Cory and Darcy…Wow we feel so sad for you guys!
You two are a great couple…I’m totally at a loss for words but want you to know that we’re thinking about you.
Thru the tears it brought a smile to my face Cory reading how you’ll cherish the time that the three of you spent together.
Big hugs
Love Josh & Krista
30.
Gary Rowan | May 22, 2007 at 8:46 pm
Dear Darcy and Corey,
It is with profound sadness that we received the news today. Please be assured that our hearts are with you at this time.
Yours sincerely, Gary and Sue
31.
Teresa Masaro | May 22, 2007 at 8:59 pm
Dear Darcy and Corey,
I am so sorry for your loss words cannot express how sad I was to hear the news I cannot imagine the pain you must be feeling. I just wanted to let you know that you and your family are in my thoughts at this difficult time.
I send you my love and prayers.
Teresa Masaro
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Fred & Mary Lou | May 22, 2007 at 9:05 pm
Dearest Darcy and Corey,
I like to consider Darcy to be a close friend and I am struggling to fight back the tears for your loss. I cannot know the pain you both feel but although his was a short visit, I know you helped to create a beautiful soul who will always be a part of your lives. Please know that our prayers are with all three of you.
love,
Fred and Mary Lou
33.
Den | May 22, 2007 at 9:22 pm
Darcy & Corey
I know that there are no words that can be expressed that will give the comfort you seek. Just want you to know our thoughts & prayers are with you both. Lean on us your family & friends, we have an intricate support group in the truth. Talk to any of us when you need to & never feel bad about saying nothing when words won’t come. Trust in Jehovah and lean on him, he will always be there for you, as will we.
Love Den
34.
Peter Poon | May 22, 2007 at 9:36 pm
Dear Corey and Darcy,
How saddened and sorry we are to learn of your loss this weekend. Our thoughts are with you and little Axel.
Peter and Sandy
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Jordan & Charlene Donald | May 22, 2007 at 9:44 pm
Thank you both for opening up your hearts and transcribing your thoughts and feelings for us all to read.
We love the name you both choose for your son.
We love you both and think you are fantastic people > separately and together in your marriage.
Love, Jordan & Charlene
Sweet Darcy. We’re so proud of you.
36.
Jeff Somersgill | May 22, 2007 at 10:15 pm
It was with great sadness that we heard of your loss. Our thoughts and hearts go out to you during this time.
Jeff and Dustine
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24601 | May 22, 2007 at 10:28 pm
I’m sorry, so sorry.
38.
Pablo Vargas | May 22, 2007 at 10:39 pm
Darcy & Corey
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your families at this very sad time.
Love,
Lilia and Pablo
39.
Wendy Soobis | May 22, 2007 at 10:49 pm
Dear Darcy + Corey:
What is there to say, except that I am so, so sorry for your loss.
Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers, and that you have the infinite support of all those who love you.
Love,
Wendy
40.
Chris | May 22, 2007 at 10:49 pm
Darcy and Corey,
My deepest condolences. Thank you for sharing your story, I didn’t think such a trying time could be so eloquently put. I hope that you both may find love and support through this time.
Chris
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CM | May 22, 2007 at 10:58 pm
I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. I have been thinking of the two of you since I heard the news. I have sat infront of the computer screen trying to think of the perfect words to say….there is nothing one can say to ease the horrific pain you are feeling!! Just know that you are in my prayers and thoughts. Lean on Jehovah and allow him to comfort you in this sad time that you are facing.
42.
Emmy Riley | May 22, 2007 at 10:59 pm
Dear Darcy and Corey,
I was deeply saddened to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you in the days to come. You are kind and wonderful people and this heartbreak is too much for any of the words I could offer. I wish you every bit of strength and love possible.
Emmy
43.
James Dong | May 22, 2007 at 11:30 pm
Dear Darcy and Corey,
With such a great sadness I heard of your loss of your dear baby. Words are meaningless compare to what you have been suffering during this every sad moment. Our thoughts and prayers are always with you and your little Axel.
Take care of yourselves.
Yours sincerely,
James
44.
Susan & Ross | May 22, 2007 at 11:46 pm
Darcy & Corey,
We were so very sad to learn of your news today. I cannot imagine what you are going through right now. I have spent the whole day trying to find something to say but we all know there is nothing. Cry as much as you need to, mourn for as long as takes and remember…
“A Parent’s Love cannot be measured
by increments of time …an entire lifetime
of love can be squeezed into a few brief
miraculous moments when necessary….”
Our hearts go out to you both at this devastating time.
Big hugs
xx
45.
Julie Doherty | May 22, 2007 at 11:57 pm
Dear Darcy and Corey,
Please know that you and your baby boy Axel are in our thoughts and prayers. We are here for you.
Love, Julie and Mike
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Claire & Ian Finlayson | May 23, 2007 at 12:19 am
Corey,
When you are ready, bring us the imprint of Axel’s footprint. We will carve an exact replica in wax, whatever size you wish, and cast it in silver. This could be worn as a pendant around Darcy’s neck, close to her heart. We can have the back engraved with the date of his birth.
Your agony can be felt all over the Sunshine Coast.
Ian & Claire
47.
Vanessa James | May 23, 2007 at 12:24 am
Dear Darcy and Corey,
There are no words to say how truly saddened I am for you and Corey as you grieve for your wee little man, Axel. May you take comfort in those around you who support and love you.
with love, Vanessa
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Carolyn Henderson | May 23, 2007 at 3:09 am
Darcy and Corey,
Sending you big hugs … I am so sorry to hear about little Axel (what a beautiful name). My heart goes out to both of you and the pain you are feeling. I can tell you are surrounded by much love … just soak it up.
Love C
49.
Gary Rielly | May 23, 2007 at 4:09 am
Darcy, I send you my sympathy at your tragic loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you cope through the coming days. Gary
50.
Christen and Kyle | May 23, 2007 at 4:31 am
Dear Darcy and Corey,
We are so very sorry to hear of your sad, sad news. I have been thinking of you all since I read your message and my words cannot convey the sadness I feel over the loss of your little one. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. May all these words of support give you comfort and strength during this time.
Much love,
Christen and Kyle
51.
Curtis and Heather | May 23, 2007 at 6:17 am
Dear Darcy and Corey,
We are so sorry for your tragic loss. Take your time grieving and caring for each other. We will continue to pray about your family and to think fondly of you two. Even though right now it must seem impossible that you could ever have joy again, try to remember that Jehovah will “wipe out every tear” soon.
Much love,
Curtis and Heather
52.
Leanne & Darrell Ross | May 23, 2007 at 6:18 am
Dear Darcy and Corey,
We send you our heartfelt love and prayers during this incredibly difficult time.
Much Love,
Leanne and Darrell
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CaNuKfanatic | May 23, 2007 at 9:31 am
my thoughts and prayers go out to you, your wife, your son. This sorrow is something that is truly inconceivable…i am very sorry for your loss.
best wishes,
William
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Rhiannon | May 23, 2007 at 2:40 pm
Dear Darcy & Corey
Our hearts are breaking for you. Our prayers are with you until Jehovah reverses your heartache. We are thinking of you at this time and I hope to see you very soon to give you both my love and support. xxxx
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Becky Kiselbach | May 23, 2007 at 3:13 pm
Dear Darcy and Corey,
We am so sorry to hear the news of your son. My heart breaks for you during this very difficult time and I would like to extend my support and love to you both.
You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Becky and Matt
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Cindi | May 23, 2007 at 4:49 pm
Darcy dear…… my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family…
Cindi
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Drew | May 23, 2007 at 5:04 pm
Darcy and Corey,
My heart is truly touched by your loss.
11 years ago we lost our son Riley very much the same way third trimeseter at a routine ultrasound, one of the worst days EVER. This was during our first year of marriage. I can relate to how you feel but do not know what you are truly going through because I am not you so I could never know how you feel.
The pain is tremendous. You will always remember. I have two wonderful kids now 9 and 6 and they know about their bother and we talk about it from time to time. Sharing this with my children really has helped.
58.
Shereen and Bruce | May 23, 2007 at 6:01 pm
Dear Darcy and Corey,
We are so very sorry to hear of your loss of beautiful little Axel. The enormous amount of love surrounding you is obvious. May you find comfort and support in that love. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Love,
Shereen and Bruce
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Terry Routier | May 23, 2007 at 8:29 pm
Darcy and Corey,
I am so so sorry for your loss. When I heard what happened my heart dropped and I cried for you. Today I talked with your Dad and I cried with him. I cannot express my great sorrow that I have for you and your family. Please know that my thoughts and my prayers are with you. I pray that you and your family receive comfort, strengh and courage.
Love,
Terry & Connie
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Dave C | May 23, 2007 at 9:37 pm
Darcy & Corey,
I cannot imagine what you are going through, I can only pass on my condolences. My thoughts are with you and your family in this difficult time.
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Vivian | May 23, 2007 at 9:57 pm
Corey & Darcy,
I am so sorry for your loss. I’m sure that Axel was grateful for the little time he was able to spend with you and I know that you will treasure the memories you have. There are no words that I can offer to take away the pain you are going through, but please know that you are in my thoughts during this difficult time.
Love,
Vivian
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Diego & Ana Jaramillo | May 23, 2007 at 11:24 pm
Darcy & Corey,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Your gift to us is a stronger appreciation for what we have and often take for granted.
With love,
Diego and Ana Maria
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Dave & Dorothy Sela | May 23, 2007 at 11:59 pm
Dear Corey & Darcy,
We just heard of your loss, and read your blog. Like all the others, I’m typing this with tears in my eyes. Wish we had something to make the pain and sadnees go away.
It’s even hard to convey how we feel.
You both are in our thoughts and prayers.
Dave & Dorothy
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Lisa Edmonds | May 24, 2007 at 3:09 am
Dear Darcy and Corey,
I am so sad for you and your families in this dark time. Axel could not have had better parents than the two of you. He surely must have felt the love you had for him all these months, as you talked to him and cared for him, under your heart. I wish you both the strength to get through this. Thank God you have such an enormous amount of love and support from your family, your friends and your church. Thank God you have each other. Corey, your eloquence is so moving– Darcy is an amazing woman, and it’s comforting to know the two of you can lean on each other. Much love, Lisa
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Danielle Wilson | May 24, 2007 at 3:49 am
Sending you all a BIG warm hug,you are occupying our thoughts morning and nite,you are not alone in this difficult time.We care DEEPLY.
Love ,Danielle xoxoxo
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Andrea | May 24, 2007 at 6:46 am
Dear Darcy & Corey,
I can not find the words to express how very sad I am for your loss. I can’t think of anything more difficult for a person to have to go through. Please know you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Lots of love,
Andrea
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auntie lynn | May 24, 2007 at 7:43 am
Darcy i could not love you more if you were my own daughter! Cory I am so happy you are part of our family. You truly are darcys perfect mate. I seen the tenderness in your eyes when you look at her. Your tremendous love for each other will provide the strength you will need to survive this tremendous loss. Axel will be in all our hearts forever.
i love you so much
auntie
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Verena Bergen | May 24, 2007 at 1:18 pm
Dear Darcy and Corey,
Corey, you did save Axel, just like in your dream. You and Darcy rescued him from the waters by giving him the dignity of birth, the honour of a name, and the tenderness of your touch as you said good-bye. He is okay now, being held forever in the arms of his Father in heaven. And this Father knows your grief—he lost a son too.
Precious in the sight of Jehovah is the death of his loved one. (Psalm 116:15)
May God wipe away every tear and love you through the pain. We are mourning with you.
Verena, Paul and Josiah Bergen
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Rohini Deivendran | May 24, 2007 at 4:13 pm
Hello Corey
I cannot imagine what you are going through. I can only pass on my most heartfelt condolences. My thoughts are with both of you in this very difficult time.
Rohini & Sinthia (@Best Buy Canada)
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shoana and celena | May 24, 2007 at 8:43 pm
Darcy and Corey,
To learn of your tragedy touched us closely in our hearts. Knowing that these freak occurrences are so un-preventable left us weeping for you and your family. Please know that our prayers and thoughts are with you, we are awakened by them, at night. We realize this loss is a tragedy beyond compare for the two of you, but also understand your families are feeling the loss as well. As this site indicates there are countless others who were anxiously awaiting Axels arrival. My sister and I look forward to meeting your beautiful son in the new system.
May Jehovah bring you strength
Sho and Cee
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Caleb & Jaime Donald | May 24, 2007 at 9:05 pm
We can not begin to understand the loss you are facing right now, and their are no words that can truly express the sorrow and heartache we feel for you and your families. We are thinking of you, your in our prayers.
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Monique Morin | May 24, 2007 at 11:08 pm
Darcy and Cory,
Words seem so insignificant at a time like this, but I just wanted to express my sympathy on the loss of your baby boy. My thoughts and prayers are with you both during this difficult time. May you draw strength from Jehovah, and the support of your families and friends.
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Teresa & Tony Woods | May 24, 2007 at 11:32 pm
Darcy & Cory:
We are so very sorry for your loss. As others have said, there are no words that come easily to give you comfort today. Know that you are loved and that we are here for you whenever you need us.
T&T
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Maxine Woogman | May 25, 2007 at 12:29 am
Darcy and Corey:
I am so sorry and saddened about the loss of your baby, Axel. I pray that the love, guidance and support you are receiving from your faith, community, family and friends will sustain you through this deeply personal and challenging time. I trust that Axel knows how much he was already loved and cherished by you both. In his brief little existence, he introduced you to the most powerful gift of life – that of true, unconditional love.
May you find comfort and strength in ways that are meaningful to you.
Maxine
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Kylie Dillon | May 25, 2007 at 1:57 am
Darcy and Corey,
I was just thinking of the two of you today and went to the this site to see how the baby was coming along and how Darcy was doing. I couldn’t believe what I read. Having a child of my own I can’t imagine what pain you are both going through right know. Thank you so much for letting us know what happened and sharing your thoughts. I wish I could be there to help support you through this time like you were there for me. I am so sorry for your loss. The three of you are in my prayers at night.
Love,
Kylie
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Debi & Brian | May 25, 2007 at 3:57 am
We can’t imagine the pain you have been going through the last few days. Saying we are so sorry for your loss of Axel seems so insignificant and useless. We wish we could help you go through these rough days and months ahead. You guys have a great family to lean on who will help you try and cope with all the feelings and emotions, but only time will ease the strong agony you are going through.
Darcy your Mom told me about this site today. Corey you did a really cool thing by setting up this site.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you guys and your families. May Jehovah’s promise for the future help you get through the rough days ahead.
Luv, Debi & Brian and family
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stevethiessen | May 25, 2007 at 4:06 am
Corey and Darcy…
as someone who knows you only as “cheif canuck”, I want to pass on my condolences and prayers, not for answers, but rather for gentle comfort. My wife and I will continue to pray for you, as someone who we don’t know, and yet for some reason, feel as though we do.
stevethiessen
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Marta and Joe | May 25, 2007 at 5:00 am
We are so saddened about the loss of little Axel. What a beautiful name you have chosen for him. We pray throughout the days for Jehovah’s Holy spirit to strengthen you both.
“For everything there is an appointed time, even a time for every affair under the heavens: a time to heal; a time to break down , a time to weep , a time to wail, a time to embrace, a time to give up as lost, a time to love.”
May you find a measure for comfort in Jehovah’s Inspired Word and His promise of being reunited with your son.
Love , Marta and Joe
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Joseph & Eden | May 25, 2007 at 4:38 pm
Dear Darcy & Corey,
We have been thinking about you continuously for the past few days. We are sooo sorry for this loss you’ve had to experience. Darcy – if I could see you right now I would give you a big bear hud the way you used to when I was down. Of couse, nothing can take away the pain you both feel now. One day, Jehovah will satisfy your every desire and make things right.
Love, J&E
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Jen | May 25, 2007 at 4:58 pm
Darcy and Corey…I must admit I do not know you personally as we have not met. But I am moved to write you a short note to express to you how sorry I was to hear of Axel’s short time with you, his sweet Mommy and Daddy. Our family had a daughter last June 1st born silently, 2 days after learning she had lost her fight. Our circumstances are in some ways different and yet the same. We’ve all lost a child soooo tender to our hearts recently.
As I read your story, I felt all those emotions again come flooding back and I feel compelled to reach out to you as my brother and sister. I felt very alone for a long time…and when I did reach a point I needed support, I found little comfort. Very few “got it”. As you go through this journey, you will discover that many parents have lost a child, but no one but you has lost Axel. And thats what makes your loss so unique and difficult for others to comprehend. Grief is very lonely and isolating. Only Jehovah can bring you true comfort, but if I can help at all by offering you a listening ear, or reassurance of what you are feeling…please dont hesitate, even if its 6 weeks, 6 months or 6 years down the road. jen@ucit.ca
I too have a Blog. If you’d like to read it at some point, let me know I’ll send you a link.
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Monica Murray | May 25, 2007 at 7:07 pm
You are in our thoughts and prayers. May you find the strength to get through these days and may peace enter your hearts to help ease the pain of which no one will ever know.
Yours sincerely,
Monica and Rob Murray
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Jamesie Bower | May 25, 2007 at 8:38 pm
Dear Darcy and Corey….
As everyone has said…..there are no words!!!!
Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.
My love to you both……….Jamesie
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Paul and Miranda | May 25, 2007 at 11:14 pm
Dear Darcy and Corey….
It’s hard to know what to say except that our thoughts and prayers are with you both at this time…we are here for you if there is anything you need or anything we can do. Lean on Jehovah and he will give you the strength and peace you need.
“For I, Jehovah, you God, am grasping your right hand,
the One saying to you, ‘Do not be afraid. I myself will
help you.’ ” ~Isaiah 41:13
Much Love,
Paul and Miranda
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Art and Donna Johnson | May 26, 2007 at 1:07 am
Our hearts break for you both. It’s just so WRONG to lose a child – especially one that you never had a chance to meet and really know. I don’t pretend to comprehend your pain but it must be horrendous. Please know that you are in our constant thoughts and prayers. May Jehovah grant you “peace”! in your sorrow.
Thank you Corey for sharing your experience with us.
Warm love to you and your family,
Art and Donna
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Brandy and Paul | May 27, 2007 at 2:10 am
Dear Darcy and Corey,
I cant even imagine how you are feeling right now. And I know that there are no words that can be said to ease your pain, but please know that you are loved and that Paul and I are thinking about you and your families during this horrific time. Thank you for sharing your experience with us.
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Dale and Carmen | May 27, 2007 at 9:00 pm
Dear Corey & Darcy;
Words cannot express how sorry we feel for your loss. You are in our thoughts, hearts and prayers. Please know we love you and look forward to the time with you when Jehovah will take away your pain of today and bless an eternity of tomorrows.
Love,
Dale and Carmen
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Tali | May 28, 2007 at 4:23 pm
Dear Corey & Darcy,
I can’t even begin to imagine what you are going through. I am so very sorry for your loss! My heart goes out to you both and you’re in my thoughts.
Tali
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D&R Sulentich | May 28, 2007 at 6:28 pm
Dearest Corey & Darcy,
Our hearts ache for you. There are no words that can make things right – but please know that our thoughts are with you and that we think of you day and night. If you need to get away – remember the door is always open.
Love D&R
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Jay & Karam | May 28, 2007 at 6:49 pm
Dear Darcy & Corey,
I was away in San Diego on training with some others from the Vancouver office when we heard this tragic news and our hearts just sank in empathy for your loss. Karam and I are grieving with you and offer our condolences and support.
Jay & Karam Hundal
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Dannie and Joel | May 28, 2007 at 8:36 pm
Dear Darcy and Corey,
We just wanted to express how much we have been thinking of you. I cannot imagine how you are feeling, this diary that you have written Corey is amazing, and Darcy you are so so strong. Please take care of yourselfs. You are in our
prayers each night.
The DeVilles
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Jim Kunder | May 29, 2007 at 12:13 am
Dear Darcy & Corey,
My deepest condolences on your terrible loss.
It is difficult to express just how saddened I am to read this news. My thoughts and prayers are with both you in this very sad time.
Sincerely,
Jim Kunder
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Brittany and Tim Yu | May 29, 2007 at 1:00 am
Dear Corey and Darcy,
We are in the Queen Charlotte Islands and have heard the sad news. We are so sorry to hear of such a tragic event. I wish we were there to give you our love. I can’t begin to imagine how painful this time must be. You will be in our thoughts and prayers every day.
Love lots
Brittany and Timothy
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Mike & Bobbie Kohuch | May 29, 2007 at 3:27 am
Dear Corey and Darcy
There are no words that can take away the terrible loss you have suffered. Our hearts go out to you and we can only hope that the love we feel for you can in some small way give you a tiny measure of support in this terrible time. We think of you often and pray that you continue to find the strenght just to get through each day. What we say is inadequate and somehow sounds hollow in the face of what you are going through. Have faith, we care. Mike and Bobbie
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Tim and Lindsay Fix | May 29, 2007 at 5:06 pm
I am so, so sorry for what has happened to you, and I know there is nothing I can say to make you feel better. But please know that your brothers and sisters are thinking about you and praying for you. And I hope you can find some comfort in that.
Tim and Lindsay Fix
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scott , ayako, and maya | May 29, 2007 at 5:09 pm
When I read your story the tears just streamed and then when I read the words of all your friends more tears came. We are all without words that could give comfort but what struck me is that if all your friends and family are this torn then think how your best friend of all,Jehovah, is feeling about this. It must break his heart to see this circumstance unfold and the feelings it has left you and your families with.
You and Darcy must be going through so much and the strength you have demonstrated is beyond words. You have brought soberness to my life and really made me realize how much we need to rely on Jehovah now and forever. We love you so much and only want the best for you and your wife. We pray and cry for your family at this point but look forward to a better future where you will be a family reunited.
From the bottom of our hearts,
Scott , Ayako, and Maya.
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Taralin | May 29, 2007 at 11:39 pm
Corey and Darcy:
Although I do not know you personally, please accept my heartfelt sympathy in the loss of your son. My heart goes out to you for there is no greater despair than the loss of a child.
I have worked for your father many years and understand the strength/bond you have as a family. May your love for each other and your faith carry you through this difficult time as you lean on one another.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Sincerely,
Taralin Dewar
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Dave & Julee Adolph and family | May 30, 2007 at 1:58 am
We were so sorry to hear of your loss. Words are unable to bring much comfort at this time, but we wanted you to know that our thoughts and prayers include you at this time of sorrow. We know that Jehovah will sustain you and help you keep the strength that shows in your relation of the horrific experience you have been through. Some peope say that time heals. I am not sure that this is true but I know that the love that you have for each other and your creator will help you to cope with your pain.
We are so sorry!
Dave, Julee and boys.
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Brian and Elenore | May 30, 2007 at 5:39 pm
Corey and Darcy:
Elenore and I want you to know we care. What a tragedy your family has experienced. The pecking order is all wrong. We can draw such comfort from the fact that Jehovah deeply cares as well. He can identify with you in that he lost his son as well. How we long for the kingdom when all things will be made right.
You are in our prayers.
Please accept our love,
Brian and Elenore
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paulina and jack mcgaughey | May 30, 2007 at 9:32 pm
I dont even know where to start. Probably because we cant even imagine what you two are going through. We are so sorry for your loss. One thing we do know is how precious your little boy was to you and how much you love him. Another thing that is obvious is your reliance on Jehovah and at the end of the day that is what is going to get you through. And your going to be ok even if it doesnt feel like it right now. You will never forget him and we will never forget him and most importantly Jehovah will never forget him. Take care of eachother. You continue to be in our prayers.
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sophia and marek ahlsten | May 30, 2007 at 11:35 pm
corey and darcy,
i am so sorry about your baby. we’ve been thinking about you every day. take the time you need…it is going to be long and hard and ugly but you are stong people with so much love around you. you will survive.
all our thoughts and prayers
sophia and marek ahlsten
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Mavis Bryant | June 1, 2007 at 1:46 am
Dear Darcy & Corey,
When I heard about baby Axel, I was so stunned and saddened. I am so sorry for your loss and my heart aches for you both. I can’t even imagine what you are going through and I know that nothing anyone says can take the pain away. I offer my heartfelt condolences to you and your family during this very difficult time.
Love
Mavis
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Marta and Joe | June 1, 2007 at 4:59 am
Dear Darcy & Corey
We were thinking of you and this scripture came to mind,
“May Jehovah bless you and keep you. May Jehovah make his face shine toward you, and may he favor you. May Jehovah lift up his face toward you and assign peace to you.” – Numbers 6:24
With Much Love
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Rinslet | June 6, 2007 at 9:42 pm
I am so sorry to hear about your loss, and really words cannot express this kind of feeling.
I guess I can understand the sadness you must feel, I lost a baby brother the same way, but as parents, the loss must have been 38947832 times tougher.
And even though we didn’t know each other personally except over hockey blogging, I’ll pray for both of you and your baby and hope for the best for both of you.
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Uncle Bob & Aunt Bev | June 7, 2007 at 1:09 am
Dear Corey and Darcy,
How can we send enough love from so far away? You are so precious to us … now the last people we are thinking of at bedtime and the first in the morning.
We are so glad to know you have the support of so many close friends — and, of course, the best families!
We send you all our love and support and can hardly wait to hug you in person, either in San Diego or Sechelt.
With love to you both, Aunt Bev and Uncle Bob
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S | June 7, 2007 at 4:53 pm
I am so sorry to hear of your misfortune. I was reading your blog and you certainly have lots of love and support from your friends and family. You must know that you are not alone. This emotional roller coaster you are on will come to an end, and you will be on a high of happiness. Have hope and support each other.
My loving thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Ann White | June 8, 2007 at 6:30 am
Your aunt Bev is one of my best friends — she was in our wedding in Antigua — and is so fond of her family — talks of you all — all of the time in faraway places. You’d be surprised where in the world she has carried you all in her heart. She called so so upset about this — and I am so so sorry to hear your tragic story.
There are no words — only time will blurr the pain. How tender your thoughts — how kind — when your children are with you — and they WILL be one day — they will be very lucky to have you both.
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C | June 10, 2007 at 6:55 pm
I was so sorry to read about this tragic event. I can’t even imagine what you must be feeling and going through during this so very difficult time. I had a miscarriage during my first pregnancy and I felt so devastated. It is something that I still cry about on occasion. I am sure that having this happen so late in the pregnancy can only make it that much harder. I do not know you personally except through husband’s parenting blog, but your story really touched me and I wanted to express my regret for your loss.